Sex is healthy.
Sex is pleasurable.
Sex is enjoyable.
Sex is stimulating.
Sex is liberating
Sex is invigorating.
Sex is physically demanding.
Sex requires strength.
Sex demands stamina.
Sex elevates mood, improves self-esteem and enhances quality of life.
Yet, despite all the benefits of having regular sex, according to numerous recent studies, less and less people are having it these days.
And I want to know why…….
Did The Pandemic Cause Problems In Our Sex Lives?
COVID-19 was/is no joke. Many people are dealing with long covid and related health challenges, job loss and financial strain. And according to many of these new studies that have been conducted since the Pandemic began, more and more people of all ages are dealing with higher levels of anxiety and depression than ever before. Combine all of this with social distancing, mandatory lockdowns, and elbow bumps instead of handshakes and hugs, and one can easily see how all of this might have a negative impact on both our sexual interest and sex drive.
Suffering From Self-Consciousness
The act of sex usually entails some form of nudity. Yes, you technically can have sex without removing all of your clothes, however it’s always a risk when there are zippers, buttons, belts and sharp objects (ie high heels) in the way. If someone is ashamed of their physical appearance they might become less likely to remove all their clothes, hide under the sheets, or ask to keep the lights off at all times. Being self conscious in your own skin is something that I’m sure we have all experienced at one point or another in our lives. But to feel this way while you are being intimate with your partner (or playdate) would be an absolute terrible feeling. And I can completely understand as to why a person who is incredibly self-conscious about their own body would want to refrain from any sort of sexual activity with another person.
Not Fit Enough to F#ck?
Finally, we get to one of the most common reasons as to why I believe a lot of people are not having regular sex. And that is that they are simply not fit enough. Now I don’t mean that you have to have ripped abs, bulging biceps and a bubbly butt to be fit. In fact, there are plenty of people who have none of these physical attributes and are very healthy and fit. The people in which I am referring to who are unfit are the ones that can’t walk up a flight of stairs without catching their breath. These are the people that prefer to drive 5 blocks instead of walk them. Unfit people become easily exhausted when performing even the most minimal amount of physical exertion (including sex). And as much as I feel bad suggesting it, I honestly believe that the more unfit and healthy someone is, the less likely it will be for them to have a healthy libido and a strong desire for sexual intercourse.
Is There a Solution to More Frequent & Better Sex?
By no means am I suggesting that going to the gym will immediately improve your sex life. But the reality is that it can’t hurt either. We already know that exercise helps us manage negative feelings of stress, depression and anxiety. We also know that the more confident we feel about our bodies, the less self conscious we will feel about ourselves. And yes, unless you’re naturally athletic and have gifted genetics, if you want to maintain strength and stamina in the bedroom, then you’re going to have to follow some sort of weekly exercise routine.
Obviously if you’re happy with your sex life and are having sex on a regular basis, then keep doing what you’re doing. But if you’re starting to notice a drought in the bedroom (or in the shower, kitchen, car, elevator, park bench, and/or wherever else you enjoy having sex) then taking a long, hard (no pun intended) look at your physical fitness might be worth it to you. And then answer the following question to yourself openly and honestly:
– “How Fit Is My Sex Life?”
“The fountain of youth for me, let’s see….I guess it’s exercise, healthy diet, lots of water, lots of laughter, lots of sex – yes, sex, we need that as human beings. It’s healthy, it’s natural, it’s what we are here to do!”
Cameron Diaz
Yours in Good Health,
Nick Cosgrove
Forever Fit Performance