I like sex.

You like sex.

I think we can all agree, that we all like and enjoy having sex.

Due to world-wide pandemic of COVID-19 and being forced to self isolate and stay at home, some of us are now having more sex if we live with our significant other. And some of us are having less sex if we live with yet don’t like our significant other. And some of us are having absolutely no sex if we don’t have a significant other.

Regardless of how much or how little sex we are having, it’s important to remember that sex is in fact very healthy for us. Not only does sex feel good, but it’s good for our mental health as well as our physical health.

When I Get That Feeling….

In my opinion, there is absolutely nothing wrong with a strong sex drive. And I believe that having a healthy libido is enhanced by following a healthy lifestyle. We already know that regular physical activity can have a significant positive impact on our hormones. And we already know that following a clean diet can promote a healthy weight for most people. And we already know that being depressed, upset, angry, sad, and overweight, can reck havoc on both our sexual appetite as well as our sexual performance in the bedroom.

So my question is that if we all already know these things, then why the hell are so many of us not doing anything about it?!?!?!

Whiskey Dick

Men, listen up – Whiskey Dick is a real thing. Although booze might make you feel like you’re the king of the sex gods, that feeling belies what’s actually going on in your body. Alcohol is a depressant, and it will decrease blood flow to the penis. This is something else, that most, if not every guy knows already. Yet, even though we men still know this, some of us continue to drink excessively.

Okay, okay, I know that some men out there will tell you that they believe they perform better with a little bit of alcohol in their system since they are able to let go of their inhibitions. However for the heavy drinkers out there who are still able to get hard after a night of binge drinking, you might find that if you have an orgasm, it’s significantly less pleasurable than usual and not to mention, less memorable.

Living With Libido Loco

Unlike men’s main sexual complaint, erectile dysfunction, women’s biggest sexual problem is caused by a combination of both mental and physical factors, which aren’t likely to be cured by merely pooping a pill like Viagra or Cialis.

A loss of sexual desire in both sexes can obviously be caused by multiply factors besides the indulgence of alcohol, such as low testosterone, medical problems, medications, relationship issues and more often then not, stress itself.

Steps To Taking The Stress Out Of Sex

I’m not a Sex Therapist so therefore it would be ignorant of me and not to mention, completely out of my scope of practice to start offering advice on how to improve your sex life.

As a Personal Trainer/Coach however who is fairly educated with regards to how the human body functions and operates, as well as the impact that our hormones can have on our overall health and wellbeing, I will make the following suggestions that might happen to indirectly help improve the quality of your life beneath the sheets, or on top of the kitchen counter, or in the shower, or in the park, or….well you get my point.

Step #1 – Get Fit

It’s no secret that good sex requires good stamina. If your cardiovascular endurance sucks, then your performance in the bedroom will most likely disappoint as well. I recommend getting in at least 30-45 minutes of low impact cardiovascular exercise each day. This could be a speed walk to work. An interval bodyweight circuit at home. A light jog around your neighbourhood. If you live and/or work in a building, then take the stairs each day rather then the elevator. Essentially whatever you decide to do, just MOVE!

Step#2 – Get Strong

Sex is fun. And sex is even more fun when you try it in multiply positions. And some of these positions will be more challenging to perform then others. And some of these positions will require you to have a strong core and strong muscles to be able to hold and maintain these positions for certain periods of time. Therefore if you want to strengthen your game in the bedroom, then you’ve got to strengthen your muscles with the weights.

Lifting weights obviously has multiply benefits, but most people don’t know that one of those benefits can lead to better sex. But it can! Therefore if there were ever a reason to starting hitting the gym (or home gym during COVID-19) this would definitely be one of them!

Step #3 – Get To It!

As I mentioned, both resistance training and cardiovascular activity can do wonders for your sex life. But so can practicing and living a physical lifestyle. Walk more. Sit less. Choose activities that require you to actually move your body. Not only will this help improve your sex life, but more importantly it will help improve your overall quality of life!

“Healthy, Lusty Sex Is Wonderful”
John Wayne

Yours in Good Health,

Nick Cosgrove
Forever Fit Performance